Taking the train….

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The Fairy Princess is having media overload – the rest of the country is suffering from it as well. There have been countless examples of inequality based on skin tone, which have been met with many articles, forums, news conferences, and marches.

All of this discussion is good. Even when it is uncomfortable. Even when the facts are hideous to face, it is good to have to talk about them. It is good to look underneath our society at the ‘mold’ that grows insidiously while unchecked.

However, all of it is having a toll – 0n everyone. On the men whose lives have been cut short and then dishonored by the lack of justice, on their grieving families, and on the population of our country.

The Fairy Princess blogs consistently on the issue of representation, and what it means for the world.

Entertainment is sometimes the first place that people…

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Child in foreigner ‘adoption’ scandal dies – Qian Ruisha 09-12-14

Re-blogged from Shanghai Daily Web Editor: Qian Ruisha

An 8-year-old girl who was one of 11 children “adopted” by an foreign man accused of abusing them has died in a Beijing hospital.

The little girl, known as “Phoebe,” underwent surgery at the Capital Institute of Pediatrics in Beijing for a bowel obstruction and kidney damage last Tuesday, but died on Sunday night, reported the Legal Evening News.

She was one of 11 children said to be under the care of an American man.

According to an earlier report, Phoebe said that she had been injured by the man.

And volunteer helpers said they saw the man strike the “adopted” children.

He has been questioned by local police and the remaining 10 children sent to the juvenile aid and protection center, said yesterday’s report.

The center will carry out DNA tests on the children and see if any were abducted and trafficked.

The man is from the United States and is named “Lemoine” said a 76-year-old Chinese woman, surnamed Guo, who told the newspaper that she had been employed by him to look after the children for years.

It was reported earlier by the newspaper that the man had been raising 11 abandoned Chinese children with congenital diseases in the past decade without legally adopting them.

Volunteers said the man had threatened them to stop them going to the authorities, according to the newspaper.

They said that he posted photographs and stories of the children on websites outside China in order to raise money for medical treatment for their conditions.

Inappropriate adoption advertising?

I wake up early.
I always wake up early, if it isn’t the increasing physical pain of growing older.
Then it’s the residue of having once been a chronic insomniac.

I thought about bragging about my most recent success as a writer. I’ve been picked out as one of the Re:Play bursary winners.
I’m supposed to be putting the finishing touches to my latest stage play. But my mind is swimming with a multitude of things that have been happening across the globe.

The behaviour of law enforcement agencies in the US, pleas for racist behaviour and resulting  criminal charges to be wiped clean, recollections of the prejudice and racism that was alive and well in the UK in the 60s when I was flown over from Hong Kong to meet the people who adopted me for the first time and then I came across these . . .

Nobody’s Child Dolls

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A Nobody’s Child Original Doll this one is called Sidney

These dolls apparently are made to honour adoption and adoptees. As an adult adoptee the last thing I need to honour me, is a misshapen, grotesque “rag doll.” It is a hideous creations. I’ll just let the tumble weed finish blowing through that incomplete sentence. Oh yes and by the way, should anyone out there be interested, in spite of the fact that many, many children from East Asia end up being transracially adopted there is not one rag doll representation of an East Asian. Not that anyone, in my honest opinion, in their right mind would want to purchase one of these horrendous things and give it to their adopted child.
Nobody'sChild Dolls
Here you can see the full range of “dolls.” These dolls have buttons for eyes, squiggly stitching to signify a mouth (if at all), many are sucking their thumbs and as for their hair, well what can I say? These dolls, to me, in no way, shape or form appear “normal” not even in the milieu of dolls. What would gifting this creation to a new adopted child say to their developing minds?
I admit it is a taste thing. It’s a subjective view, there maybe people out there who might find these creations, ‘charming’ and the perfect gift for their adopted protégés. If so please do leave a comment and let me know what it is about these rag-monstrosities that you find so attractive. Personally if I had been presented with one of these as a child I would probably have had nightmares

Then I came across a post on-line talking about a Craigslist post. I initially thought that my dyslexia had gotten the better of me. I thought I had misread the post because it was talking about people posting ads to find babies and children that could be adopted. I reread the post. No I had not on this occasion misread, my dyslexic brain had not misinformed me. There were indeed people posting on Craigslist looking to adopt children

craigslist-adoptionAbove is a screen shot of Craigslist listings for adoption – in amongst the dogs, cats and other pets being sought or offered for adoption there ads for couples looking to adopt. I have a huge problem with this fact before I even get onto the actual substance of the ads. So adopting a child has been boiled down to the same status that we in society give to our pets. That we can trade, give-away, exchange and sell as private buyers and no-one bats an eye.

WeWantToAdopt CraisglistWashingtonJust  a couple of screen-shot examples of the Craigslist ads you can come across. Couples looking to adopt. Sadly there appear to be more than just a handful. How can this be right, let alone acceptable or morally defensible. Has humanity sunk so low that we now think so little of our most precious human resource, out children, as little more than “pets”? Are the systems in place in the US and the UK so dysfunctional that people are resorting to placing ads? I need more time to process and further research this entire phenomenon. We’ve seen ‘designer children’  and children being used as the ultimate accessory. Are we now moving into another troubling area that of cyber baby trafficking?
Just as paedophiles have moved from grooming children face to face, now it’s being done on-line via social media.

lookingtoadoptlocallyIt’s a depressing thought so close towards the end of the year at a time when millions around the world celebrate. When children should be at the centre of these celebrations. What future problems are we creating if such access to children goes unregulated? Look at the problems that occur with adoptees not having the correct information on their birth certificates. The fact that many adoptees don’t have birth certificates (well not true ones).

I’m sure that I will be revisiting this topic again in the new year for the moment all I can suggest is if you come across any such ads on Craigslist mark the ad as Prohibited. For now that will have to do.
For those that say but the right of the couples to want to adopt is being restricted – no it is not. These couples are still free to approach bona fide adoption agencies. Their local childcare services. It does not prevent them from being able to adopt. I personally question why you would put an advert in an on-line sales listing site if you were truly serious (across all aspects) about adopting a baby or child.

 

Adoption Awareness Month is over

passportphoto-1-1It’s been an amazing time the release of two publications to which I am a contributing author Adoption Therapy  and Dear Wonderful You and then National Adoption Awareness Month 2014 #NAAM14. Even though it’s now come to an end,  I think I can safely say that adoptees will continue to #flipthescript, even if the hash-tag fades from memory and social media.

6053547_GIn the good old U of K, as I’ve mentioned previously we don’t get a month we just get adoption week. So I followed the example of my US cousins and spent the month tweeting, re-tweeting, writing, participating in interviews and posting on social media about adoption. Not the idealised, sugar-sweet and “they all lived happily ever after in their forever families,” but taking the reader away from the ‘adoption-tourist trail.’ Talking about some of the more unsavoury realities and consequences of transracial adoption, that many don’t want to countenance.

Society does all that it can to ensure that animals are not removed from their natural habitat. The millions of pounds and dollars raised from donations and public subscriptions, freely given by concerned citizens is helping to ensure that our wildlife is cared for and nurtured where it belongs and where it should be.
A shame that the same cannot be said of the worlds most vulnerable, its children. Apparently we are incapable of applying the same “best practice,” logic and good sense to foundlings, orphans and children in care. Instead of helping countries to better care, house and home their lost, orphaned and displaced children. The west finds every more inventive ways to facilitate (or try to) methods of allowing people to adopt babies and children. Basically allowing them to remove a country’s most of precious assets their children, their next generations, for a pittance.

TransracialAdoptions_68541_lgAs I’ve said before and will keep repeating, I am not anti transracial adoption. Neither am I pro transracial adoption either. Even in an “ideal” world there will be the odd circumstances that might arise, where there is no other option (after all other options have been exhausted) but for that child to be adopted and travel away from their country of birth. But I would like to hope in that ideal world, that child would be raised far better than we raise and care for our existing transracial adoptees.

I consider adoption to be an extreme, a violent, intervention that is not reversible. Once done there is no going back. I was adopted over fifty years ago and from what I can see for all the sophistication and front line public relations many of the agencies that offer global childcare solutions, have not changed that much. In fact many have become the legalised face for what is in essence child trafficking.
We know that many of the institutions that were formerly held above reproach, who performed childcare functions, such as the Church (whatever denomination) are far from reproach or serious wrong doing in their historical treatment of young mothers their babies, orphans atumblr_n3sb61DOKv1twviwuo5_500nd foundlings.

Adoption is still subconsciously stigmatised within the communal and cultural way of thinking. On the face of things we are all about diversity, multiculturalism and equality – or we’d like to con ourselves into thinking that we are. Yes everyone should grow up in a family, in a community not as an institutionalised child or young person. But does it have to be at any cost? And what is that cost for the thousands of children that are uprooted, displaced and dislocated from their roots, their heritage and their birthright?

Surely in this modern era there has to be a better way? But I guess, given the fact that we have the means to solve world hunger and world poverty now, says it all. We just don’t have the will.
So I’ll continue to open my adult adoptee mouth when many would prefer that I didn’t. I will continue to #flipthescript.
If I can reach just one person, just one prospective transracial adoptive parent and make them think it will have been worth while.

No one should be forced into an in between existence of neither one identity or the other.
Everyone deserves to know their own history, to engage and communicate in their own native tongue.

Do not forget me and MY HISTORY. It and I are not secrets to be ashamed of or hidden.
MY HISTORY is a part of YOUR HISTORY –  that’s why I am here.

#flipthescript #IAmNotYourCulturalDiversityQuota

Dear #ThatAsianKid from #Playbill ‘s #AskJohnny

Lucy Sheen aka 4gottenadoptee:

fairprincessdiaries with a poignant post reflecting on recent world events

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The Fairy Princess has not been blogging much, she’s been paying attention to world events that are too sad to reiterate here, though she has, of course, written at length, sadly, in the past.

Image by Banksy

Image by Banksy

She hopes she never has to write about the slaughtering of young men again, she is hoping America will figure out how to come together and end senseless violence towards one another.

She hopes. Always, there is hope.

She also noted that two television shows starring Asian Americans were cancelled in the last weeks – SELFIE, starring, of course, the fantastic John Cho…

And TBS cancelled Sullivan and Son, with the always hilarious Jodi Long….

However….in every cloud there is a silver lining, so the saying goes, and here is one – HULU is going to be broadcasting the rest of the season of SELFIE, which means if you fell…

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